On October 26th, 2010, at 9 weeks old, Phoebe Rose was diagnosed with high risk MLL + Infantile Leukemia. A not well understood, difficult to treat and cure, Leukemia. This is her story of hope and love in the face of cancer and despair. It is best read from the beginning. Thank-you for visiting.

Tuesday, November 24, 2015

Phoebe's obituary - something I never imagined I would ever write. In fact, most of the things we have been doing lately are things no parent should ever have to do. Each day we wake up without our sweet Phoebe is harder than the last. We miss her so much.

Please see the link below for Phoebe's obituary and details on how to make a donation to infant leukemia research at St.Jude in her memory. 


Friday, November 20, 2015

Celebration of Life

We are very touched by the many messages and comments we have received - it is wonderful to know how loved our sweet Phoebe is. And how she touched your lives. We wish we could respond to each of you and thank you personally.  

It's so hard to believe that Phoebe is gone and we just miss her so much. I miss her little voice telling us all what to do. I miss holding her. I miss her joy. I miss everything about her. I keep thinking I am going to wake up from this nightmare, but instead I just feel lost. We all do. Mae cries for her sister and best friend and it breaks my heart. 

We are leaving Memphis tomorrow after 16 months away from home. We wish so much that things were different and our Phoebe was coming with us - healthy and with the cure she so deserved. Instead she is coming home with us so we can put her to rest. We miss her so much. 

The celebration of Phoebe's life will be held on Sunday November 29th at the Beechwood Funeral Home, located at 280 Beechwood Avenue in Ottawa. We will update soon with more details. 

A special thank-you to Ella Berman for writing and singing this beautiful song for Phoebe. I know that Phoebe would have loved this and when I close my eyes I imagine her singing along. https://m.youtube.com/watch?feature=youtu.be&v=1OAhx2alPXc

Wednesday, November 18, 2015

Our sweet Phoebe Rose took her last breath this morning in the ICU at St.Jude. We never made it home with her, but in many ways her beautiful spirit will always be home with us. We are broken, so broken, and just miss her so much. We Love you Phoebe Rose.

Monday, November 16, 2015


We are making plans to come home and are transferring care to CHEO's ICU. Phoebe is very sick with infections, but we hope and plan, as long as it will help Phoebe, to continue treatment for these at home. There is no cure for refractory infantile leukemia and we have tried every single thing we can. 

St.Jude, being the incredible and wonderful place that it is, is going to great lengths to get Phoebe home to Ottawa. I don't know if this would be possible anywhere else. They are arranging a medical transport flight, and because of the extenuating circumstances, they may allow both Jon and I to travel with Phoebe. We could be leaving as early as tomorrow. 

The people who have cared for Phoebe throughout this journey are some of the most beautiful people I have ever met. They have done so much to help Phoebe, but also to help our family, and even though we are going home without the cure we so hoped for, we will always be grateful for this beautiful place and their mission. St.Jude has given us time and will always hold a special place in our hearts. 

We are still hopeful, but our hope has changed. With everything we have, we hoped for a forever cure and to bring home a healthy child, but now we hope for time. We hope for healing. We hope for smiles, good days, and strength - for Phoebe and all of us. We hope Mae and Phoebe understand. 

Phoebe is still sick with many infections, she is requiring high flow oxygen to help her breathe, but each day she spends some time playing, watching movies, and telling us all what to do. At Phoebe's request, we have started playing freeze dance at least once a day. Phoebe plays and pauses the music, we dance, and she smiles. I would do anything for that smile.

We are devastated. There are no words that even come close to expressing how painful and heart shattering this is. How hard it is to watch Phoebe suffer and fight to breathe as we have been doing. We wish things were different. We wish there was something, anything, we could do that would guarantee healing and we will continue to do all that we can. All that we can right now means bringing Phoebe home where she can be surrounded by love. It means holding her, loving her and supporting her through whatever may come. We just love her so much. 

Thank-you all for loving and praying for Phoebe. Please pray for a safe journey home and keep our sweet girl in your thoughts. 

Sunday, November 15, 2015

Saturday, November 14th 

Thank-you all for the love and prayers and messages of support - I believe Phoebe can feel the love and that means the world to me. I was going to wait to update because things are so unpredictable, but I know that you love and worry about Phoebe too.

Last night was so hard and very little sleep was had. We spent the night trying to help Phoebe breathe better. Listening to her grunt and struggle and try to get comfortable. She was placed on high flow oxygen via a nasal cannula - this took some convincing and negotiating as she didn't want something in her nose, but she finally agreed. It took some time for her to settle and today has been very up and down, but overall her breathing has improved although it is still fast. Her heart rate and blood pressure have come down (both were high), and she has managed to maintain her oxygen saturation - although it's at a high setting.

The colitis appears to be a bit better and Phoebe's belly is less distended, but her pancreatic enzymes are more elevated today. We hope they show some improvement tomorrow.

There are blasts in Phoebe's blood, but the doctors are not convinced it is disease progression. They think that her body could be in shock and her bone marrow could be producing everything and anything it can. Right now leukemia is probably the farthest thing on our mind - there are just too many life threatening issues at play.

We are clinging to hope. Phoebe is more comfortable. She slept most of the day, but when she was up she played on the iPad with Mae. She hasn't played with Mae in weeks and her big sister really needed this. We are grateful for each day, each smile, each tiny victory, every moment.

Friday, November 13, 2015

Phoebe had a very hard day today. We all did. On top of everything, she also has pancreatitis and colitis. Her belly is very swollen and it's affecting her breathing - making her work very hard, too hard, to breathe.  It is all just too much. We had some very difficult talks in the ICU tonight and there really aren't any words to describe this. Our hearts are breaking and we are clinging with all that we have to hope. Even if it is just hope for relief for our sweet girl. We need prayers, all of your positive energy, and love.

Thursday, November 12, 2015


Phoebe is in the ICU. We have been here since Tuesday afternoon when she started having difficulty breathing. The rapid response team was called and within minutes, Phoebe's room on the leukemia ward was full of people trying to help. I can't say enough about the amazing people who work here.

The ICU doctors told us Phoebe was in respiratory failure and once we arrived in the ICU they quickly put her on a biPAP machine to help her breathing. The mask covered her entire face and she screamed at us to help her. We stood by completely helpless, only able to offer our voices to comfort her. When we tried to explain that the mask will help and it will be okay, she screamed "it's not okay". That is Phoebe's standard reply to "it will be okay", and she's right. None of this is okay. 

Thankfully her breathing improved with the help of steroids and the biPAP machine - she tolerated it for about ten hours before she pulled it off her face and demanded she get a break. She is still requiring oxygen all the time via a regular mask and she recently tested positive for adenovirus in her blood, stool, and sinuses - it is also probably in her lungs.

The best and really the only way to completely get rid of any virus is with an immune system, something Phoebe doesn't have. There is a drug available to treat adenovirus, but it is very toxic and hard on the kidneys. We were hoping to use an investigational drug, but it is only available on a compassionate care basis to kids who are unable to receive the first - for example if their kidneys are failing. We are trying all we can to get the less toxic investigational drug, but because it would take at least a week even if it were available and Phoebe is very sick with adenovirus now, we are giving one dose of the available drug, holding our breath, and hoping it helps. 

There are so many obstacles and challenges for Phoebe to overcome that it is overwhelming and really just devastating. Each time we move forward, we take a step back. Phoebe is strong and brave and she fights so hard, but she is also five years old and deserves so much more than this. Despite all that is going on, when Phoebe isn't telling her nurses and doctors exactly what she thinks - she smiles. She laughs at her Daddy's jokes, she paints and does crafts. She listens to her favourite music and reminds Mae to do her homework. She keeps all of us on our toes and reminds us what is important. 

We are holding on and hopeful for brighter days. We hope to get out of the ICU. We hope to get out of the hospital. We hope for a better quality of life for Phoebe, and we pray for healing and relief from all of this. One day at a time. 

One thing is for certain, Phoebe can feel the love and prayers and this brings us so much comfort. Thank-you all for keeping Phoebe in your thoughts and prayers and for the beautiful messages of love and support.