On October 26th, 2010, at 9 weeks old, Phoebe Rose was diagnosed with high risk MLL + Infantile Leukemia. On November 18th 2015 , she took her last breath. This is her story of hope and love in the face of cancer and despair. Phoebe always brought the joy and continues to inspire us to make a difference. It is best read from the beginning. Thank-you for visiting.

Thursday, May 29, 2014


We received terrible news today. Phoebe's leukemia is back for a third time and I feel like screaming. It is in her bone marrow and we are terrified. There isn't any way to fully explain just how devastating this is and there is not a word big enough or ugly enough to describe how we feel. Devastated doesn't do this justice. 

Life can change in an instant. Please remember this and don't take it for granted. Don't complain about the weather and the traffic, don't complain about growing older. Don't sweat the small stuff. Hug your kids and your friends and your family. Let them know that they are loved. Be thankful. 

We are not giving up. In fact, when I arrived at CHEO this morning, although we were still waiting for results and I was in complete denial that this was actually happening, Phoebe's doctor had already been talking and emailing with her doctors at SickKids and St.Jude and they are once again putting their heads together and looking into options and trials. Trying to find something to help. Trying to find us some hope. The amount of disease in Phoebe's bone marrow is relatively low, it is 14%, and today's tests showed no leukemia in her spinal fluid, so that is one tiny piece of good news. Phoebe also has no symptoms and her blood work is normal, so we have some time. It is not like it has been with previous relapses where we have been racing against time, we are still racing and we need to do something soon, whatever that may be, but we have more time. 

Our fearless leader, Phoebe, is as feisty as ever and it is so hard to believe that she is anything but healthy. She is as joyful and full of life as always and we love her so much. We will continue to follow her lead and we will never stop believing that she will be cured. We have been knocked down, there is no question about that, and we are exhausted and weary, but as long as there are options, we will keep trying. 

Despite the hope that we continue to cling to, what I feel the most right now is frustration. I am frustrated and angry at the world and I have so many thoughts running through my head. Before Phoebe was diagnosed, the thought that one of my children would have cancer was completely foreign to me. It never crossed my mind. Not once. It would never happen to us because I am healthy and I am careful and I don't do any of those "things" that cause cancer. We eat organic, I am a vegetarian, we exercise, avoid chemicals, we don't eat fast food, I read labels obsessively and avoid anything I can't pronounce, we mostly cook from scratch, and I am careful to the point of being paranoid, yet my baby was born with cancer. I feel like I need to explain and defend myself sometimes as we are inundated with information on the internet that tells us that cancer is caused by things that we have done or eaten, that it is a result of a nutritional deficiency, or because we are not happy and positive. I believe that what we eat and how we live is so important, but it is not so simple, especially with children. I look at my Phoebe, who is happier to eat lentil soup and kale salad than candy, Phoebe who happily drinks down her curcumin juice, and I feel like screaming. We did what we were supposed to do, and this still happened to us.  

So, here we are almost 4 years later and we are no further ahead. Yes, there are some trials and options but they are few and none are in Canada. Canada has one single hospital running phase 1 clinical trials, Canada directs only 3% of federal research funding to children's cancer, and somehow, this is thought to be okay. It is not okay. These kids who are participating in trials, sacrificing their bodies, their lives, all while clinging to hope for a cure, no matter how small, and their families and friends and doctors who are shaving their heads and running marathons to raise money; they are who is forwarding research. For Canadian children, the options are very few at home and our government will not cover the cost of "experimental treatment" for the few more options in the US, despite how promising they may be, so kids are dying. Canada is behind, and the research is not moving fast enough for Phoebe. This reality is terrifying. 

Next week, despite all that is going on, Jon is determined to go to Toronto to shave his head as part of the Great Big C17 Head Shave. Also shaving his head at this event is Phoebe's Dr.Whitlock, who is also the chief of oncology at SickKids and chair of C17 and one of the doctors that has been working hard to find us some hope - he is a very busy man, yet he is raising money for childhood cancer research and shaving his head. Many of the other people joining him are also pediatric oncologists. Phoebe's doctor at CHEO, who is also chief of oncology and extremely busy, runs a 100km relay each year to raise money for childhood cancer research. What does it say, when the people responsible for treating children with cancer and researching better treatments and cures are also the people raising money to support the very research they need to move forward? I think it is very telling of the lack of support and the lack of money given to children's cancer research by our government and the need to do more. It also speaks to the dedication of these wonderful doctors and people. We need to fill the gap, so that our doctors can focus on saving children, rather than advocating for more funding. We need to do more because it is the right thing to do. 

We will know more tomorrow and hopefully have a plan. In the meantime, we will continue to hold Phoebe tight, to tell her that she is loved and to surround her with hope. Her big sister Mae knows something is wrong, she is holding her Phoebe and asking many questions, but we haven't told either of them yet. We are taking things one day at a time. Thank-you for reading this and caring for our sweet Phoebe Rose - we need prayers and postive thoughts now more than ever. 


  1. Jenny- I'm thinking of you and your beautiful family, and holding you all so tight in my heart. Phoebe has been through so very much, as have all of you, but you can do this one more time. May it be the very last, and Phoebe will be cured and well. It sucks beyond measure that you must, and my heart breaks for you all, but I will follow your lead... and Phoebe's... and be hopeful for you all. I am so far away, but if there is anything I can do remotely, please let me know. Big hugs to you all. xox

  2. Phoebe, Jenny, Jon, Mae, the whole family and community, are incredibly courageous... I can't even imagine.... and you are right. There are no words. We must will this into being.... for Phoebe and everyone else fighting. I wish I could share your pain with you, take it from you, relieve you all... and suck the cancer right out of Phoebe. I do share your pain, I feel it. It's palpable. I hope, somehow, it eases things for all of you. Thank you so very much for writing to us all at this unimaginably difficult time.

  3. I'm heartbroken to read this news this morning, Jenny. You are right, this is so so unfair. You have all fought so bravely, I pray that that well of strength within you never runs dry; but oh how I wish you didn't need to draw deep from it again.

    Jill is right - your pain is palpable here. Thank you for being so vulnerable and allowing our community to feel some of what you feel. We need to hear it, we need to come together as a community to "fill the gap" as you say.

    Please pass on a hug for your sweet girls from me and know that you are not alone in this.

  4. You must not give up hope and you must pray constantly for God's intervention. He did not bring this to you He will help you through this. All good comes from Him all evil from Satan. My grandson was 6 months old when diagnosed with leukemia
    He relapsed twice. Had inten se chemo, BMT, lung transplant, etc. He is 20 now. They told us he wouldn't live.
    Has health issues but going to college and is a kind good man. NEVER STOP PRAYING!!!

  5. Thinking about and praying for your beautiful little Phoebe. These kiddos are amazing fighters and I know she will give it her all. Keep rocking Phoebe :)

  6. Hello Jenny, To you, Jon, Mae and sweet little Phoebe Rose my heart breaks knowing the heart ache you must be feeling. Thirty seven years ago our family lost a little one to Histicytosis, she was 5. Had she been born in more recent years things would have been much different. Keep hope bright, don't give up and know you have a GINORMOUS support group here!
    While I myself have been dealing with cancer; diagnosed Feb. 15, 2012, melanoma, I can't even imagine if I was in your shoes, watching your sweet little baby endure all that she has and find the strength to be strong for her.
    Two years in I'm doing fine, but know all too well just as with little Phoebe, that can change so very quickly and painfully so.
    I have known too many young children who have been in very similar battles and it always amazes me the way they are so resilient and through their strength we can find our own.
    I will be keeping you and your family close in heart and mind. Little prayers said as well for you and dear little Phoebe.
    Take car of yourself and know you are not alone. Hugs to you and yours.
    {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{ <3 <3n<3 <3 }}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

  7. Jenny, I'm praying for you and your family and your sweet little Phoebe. It's bad enough that a parent has to go through this once, but again and again? I am praying with all my heart that they find a cure and better treatments for these sweet kids. I pray the doctor's can find a trial treatment that will take this away from Phoebe's body and she is healed. Thank you for sharing Phoebe and your family with us and God Bless you all! Love and Prayers!